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Answering the call as a consecrated laywoman

Karen Bonkiewicz took vows on Sept. 9 as a consecrated laywoman with the lay consecrated branch of the Apostles of the Interior Life — a community dedicated to evangelization and helping people grow in their relationship with Jesus. LEAVEN PHOTO BY JILL RAGAR ESFELD

by Jill Ragar Esfeld

OVERLAND PARK — For Karen Bonkiewicz, the path to a consecrated life was forged by family.

“My parents are not rich,” she said. “They’re not well-known. They’re not the heads of companies or anything.

“They’re just good people to the core.”

Growing up, spending time together was the priority in her home.

“We would say the rosary every Sunday no matter what,” Bonkiewicz recalled. “We had family meals every day.”

And sacrifices were made to ensure the children attended Catholic school.

“I think my vocation took birth from going to Mass every day,” said Bonkiewicz. “That wasn’t my choice, but that’s what my school did and so that’s what I did.

“And that’s when I fell in love with the Eucharist.”

As early as third grade, Bonkiewicz felt God tugging at her heart.

“It was as if he was asking me, inviting me,” she said. “I wasn’t exactly sure what that meant at the time, only that I felt his deep love for me.”

On Sept. 9, Bonkiewicz took her vows as a consecrated laywoman with the lay consecrated branch of the Apostles of the Interior Life (AVI) — a community dedicated to evangelization and helping people grow in their relationship with Jesus.

Members of the Apostles’ lay consecrated branch profess their vows to Sister Susan Pieper, general superior of the AVI.

“They live out in the world like a layperson,” Sister Susan explained. “But they have vows of poverty, chastity and obedience.”

As a consecrated laywoman, Bonkiewicz will continue to teach at Pius X High School in her hometown of Lincoln, Nebraska.

She’ll also continue her formation with the AVI community through Skype, and by traveling to Kansas every few months for community events.

“My life will be a combination of teaching, prayer and community,” she said. “I’ve already been living the rule of life before consecration.”

By “rule of life,” Bonkiewicz means that she attends daily Mass, does a daily Holy Hour, a daily rosary, weekly confession and Divine Mercy chaplets. Within her Holy Hour, she spends 30 minutes in mental prayer.

Bonkiewicz says she’s taking care of her soul so she can take care of other souls. And, as a high-school Spanish teacher, she has plenty of opportunity for that.

“For many years now,” she said, “students just drop by my classroom all the time and they want to talk about a problem.

“They feel comfortable talking to me, and I can get them to the right people for counseling.

“And I have students coming to me all the time asking for prayers, because they know I pray.”

Bonkiewicz said her first encounter with the AVI Sisters, when she was a graduate student at the University of Kansas, had a great impact on her future.

“I went to Mass [at the St. Lawrence Center]” she recalled. “And [the priest] said, ‘There’s going to be three Sisters coming from Italy.’ And I imagined them as old women in black habits.

“The next week they came, and they were young, joyful — and not in habits.

“And I was just blown away.

“It opened me up to the possibility of being a Sister.”

Bonkiewicz entered the Marian Sisters of the Diocese of Lincoln, Nebraska, but, for health reasons, was not able to continue at the convent.

She then learned about the lay consecrated Branch of the Apostles, which already had two members — Mary Grace Lasquety, a doctor in Chicago, and Renee Anne Paulin, a professor in Texas.

“She began thinking seriously that this could be a way for her to live out a consecrated life,” said Sister Susan. “She could be the spouse of Christ and then continue her teaching, which she loves.

“She could continue being close to her family, but be a part of our family, too.”

Three years ago, Bonkiewicz started discerning to become a consecrated laywoman.

First, she became a member of the AVI family group — lay Catholics who live the AVI charism of prayer and evangelization.

“And then, I think it was two additional years of formation,” she said.

In a note to family and friends invited to attend the celebration of her vows of consecration, Bonkiewicz explained the role of a consecrated laywoman.

“She responds to the call of loving Christ with an undivided heart as his spouse,” she wrote. “She witnesses God’s love in and for the world.

“In my case, I witness his love as a daughter, sibling, aunt, friend, teacher and co-worker.”

After the celebration of vows, Bonkiewicz admitted that, though she is quiet and reserved by nature, it was difficult for her to contain her joy.

“I wanted to lift my arms to the sky,” she said. “I wanted to dance.

“Once I said my vows, it was just joy and peace.”

About the author

Jill Esfeld

Jill Ragar Esfeld received a degree in Writing from Missouri State University and started her profession as a magazine feature writer, but quickly transitioned to technical/instructional writing where she had a successful career spanning more than 20 years. She returned to feature writing when she began freelancing for The Leaven in 2004. Her articles have won several awards from the Catholic Press Association. Jill grew up in Christ the King parish in Kansas City, Missouri; and has been a member of Holy Trinity Parish in Lenexa, Kansas, for 35 years.


  • Thank you for sharing…..having the chance to read yours is more than an inspiration for me. You’ve basically spelled out what I’ve been feeling searching, in a matter of words. May God continually bless you as always….


    Christine R.

    • One way to become a Consecrated layperson or what we also call Consecrated Secular is to become a member of secular Institute- a form of consecrated life in the world. CCC 928-929
      There are roughly 30 different communities in the USA and they have their own charisms and rule of life. You can check them out here and see if God may be calling you to Consecrated Life in a Secular Institute.

  • I have just finished the first of four residencies in the Mentorship Program with the Holy Family School of Faith, and heard of the opportunity of the consecrated life for lay women. I would love more information at your convenience.

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